When it comes to anal sex, we’ve all heard two stories: one from our adventurous friend that says “Oh my god you HAVE to try it! I’ve never came so hard in my life!”
OOORRR… the horror story. “Oh my god it was so painful, I bled and it hurt to sit down for a week.”
Ladies and gentlemen, we’re here to have a frank discussion about anal sex. For so long it has been considered taboo, somewhat dangerous, or something only slutty girls do. We’re going to give you the low-down on why anal play is so popular (it’s one of our fastest growing categories!) and how to go about it safely, comfortably, and (most importantly) pleasurably.
It can be a little daunting; letting someone in your back door that, up until now, was only considered an ‘exit’ hole. Or maybe it’s the stigma that worries you more: Am I going to be a ‘slut’ if I have anal sex? (No, of course not!) Is it going to hurt? Will it be messy? (And by messy, well, you can probably get what we’re hinting at)
Anal sex, done incorrectly, can certainly be painful and potentially messy. But done correctly, it can be extremely liberating, orgasmic, and bonding. Here’s why:
1. It builds a deep, trusting bond between you and your partner.
If you’re ready to experiment with anal sex, make sure you are comfortable with the other person; it takes a little time, patience, and understanding to get it right. If your relationship has the ability to execute these qualities, you’re in the right market for a little back door fun. Having trust in your partner that he will go at your pace is monumental, and being on the receiving end of that trust is as well. When two people who trust each other try something new, the result is usually a closer, more open and honest relationship. What’s not to love about that?
2. It can be incredibly pleasurable for the woman, not just the man.
Anal sex is not only incredibly arousing because it’s something new and naughty, but it also allows your guy to hit your g-spot from a different angle, resulting in other-worldly, spine-tingling orgasms. If that wasn’t enough to convince you already, you can get a double-whammy of stimulation by also touching your lady bits at the same time. As the Bad Girl’s Bible states, “it leaves you completely free to stimulate inside and outside of your vagina, which can help you to have much more powerful orgasms.” So, just to recap, an orgasm that is a result of clitoral, vagina, and anal stimulation. You can probably guess that it feels nothing short of mind-blowing.
3. It doesn’t have to hurt
One word: LUBE. Lots and lots of lube. This isn’t something you can just throw yourself into. (Or, er, have your guy throw himself into). You need to go slooow, and use a lot of lubricant to make for a smooth ride. Use a water based lubricant, liberally.
It’s also a good idea to try stimulating yourself anally before the fact. Start with a finger and then slowly work up to something a bit bigger, like a vibrator or anal toy. This way, you won’t be surprised by the new sensation when you and your partner get down.
4. It’s liberating!
There’s no better feeling than trying and succeeding in a new experience, especially a sexual one. Sex is something that’s so deeply personal, and when you’re on your A-game you are unstoppable, not just in the bedroom but also in life. It gives you a carefree confidence that is so alluring and captivating, you seem to magnetically attract positive vibes. To boot, conquering a fear is one of the best things you can do for yourself. When you push through the wall of fear, put your trust in someone, and succeed, you set a new standard for yourself and change your life.
See? It doesn’t have to be scary. If you’ve been curious about anal sex and think you and your partner are ready, you should give it a try and find out for yourself what all the buzz is about. There’s just as much fun to be had with booty play as there is with vaginal sex, and just as many playful toys. (Love Beads, anyone?) Educate yourself on the subject so you know what to expect, and then have at it! The world is your bootylicious oyster.