Be Naked, Be Proud…It’s Time to Strip Down!

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Being naked isn’t something you should feel ashamed about, ever. Granted, you don’t want to get naked in public. However, once you’re alone or with a partner, strip down and toss the clothes to the side for a while.

It’s Fun

The reality is that being naked is fun. If you think clothes are too restrictive at times, then ditching the clothes is easy. If you’re a bit more modest, try it a few times. Get in touch with your body – and even do a little experimenting. Some of the best fun you can have is when you’re completely naked. It’s worth checking out if it’s been a while.

It Builds Confidence

There’s nothing sexier than someone with confidence. When you are naked, be proud. It’s your body and therefore it’s something you should own. Don’t worry if it’s not the perfect shape. It’s your shape and therefore it’s beautiful. When you’re alone, there’s no one judging you. And if you’re with a partner, they will be turned on a lot more when you’re confident with your body than if you’re making a run for getting under the covers.

Get to Know You

You need to know who you are. Strip down and stand in front of the mirror in all of your glory. Identify your flaws as well as your really great features. Great things are to come when you learn to love your body.

The next time you want some time with you, strip down. Get to know you and if you have a partner, let them get to know you a bit, too.

Don’t Deny Those Dirty Thoughts – Why We Have Dirty Minds, and That’s Okay

untitledDon’t deny those dirty thoughts- bringing your fantasies to reality: why we have a dirty mind. It is the popular belief that every seven seconds, men think about sex and it is likely a comparable number for women. That is around a staggering 8,000 times a day, but you might be surprised to learn that there is actually no scientific evidence to back up that claim. Honestly, if a researcher asked you to count your dirty thoughts per day, you would skew your own numbers by trying not to look like a pervert or having your brain completely rebel against you and let loose a torrent of pent-up arousal. However, it is true that both men and women have just absolutely filthy minds, even if they realize it or not. You may find yourself having a private thought or two about that hot stud at the gym or casually passing by a window display and thinking about all the things you would do to that mannequin if she were a real woman, and having those dirty thoughts is just fine.

Dirty thoughts can actually be good for you. Not only do they suggest good sexual health, but studies have found that associating information with a dirty thought can improve memory. With a universal interest that people share in sex, associating information you want to remember with something arousing makes that information infinitely more interesting to the brain. Nothing stands as better proof to fact than the age-old pubescent math rhyme, “Chicks, chicks, dirty chicks, six times six is thirty-six,” which you may have enjoyed on the playground while learning multiplication tables.

However, if dirty thoughts are working in your advantage, how often do we really have them? According to a study a study published in The Journal of Sex Research, the number of times that men think about sex is not the unrealistic once every seven seconds, but rather about 19 times a day, with women following in at 10 times a day. Of course, as we all know, some men and women have dirtier minds than others, but the study presents an accurate average.

Our frequently dirty minds all date back to our earliest ancestors in order for us to secure the stability of the species. While the thought of an early homo sapien male checking out the women from the next cave over is amusing, we continue to have dirty minds because sex is fun. Sex releases endorphins and other chemicals in order to make us feel good and if it were up to our brain, we would have sex all the time. A study published in the Social Psychological and Personality Science states that sex makes up happier and dirty thoughts are there to nudge us in that direction. It is our brain subconsciously trying to cheer us up. Dirty thoughts for women are especially beneficial as while men can get turned on by a few seductive sights, but women need a little more fantasy to foster arousal.

Yet, with all its benefits, dirty thoughts have become significantly demonized in society. Newlywed women abandon their favorite masturbatory fantasies because they think they should only focus on their new husbands, and men try to quell their thirst for trying out new ideas in bed just in case it might kill the prospect of having sex at all. In reality, it is the expression of these dirty thoughts and fantasies that can raise your sex life and relationship to a whole new level. While society is becoming progressively more open towards sexual freedom, there is still a long way to go, but if anything can be said about your dirty mind, it is that it is completely normal.

Have you ever woken up beside someone you regretted sleeping with?; Ways to move Beyond Regret

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Have you ever woken up beside someone you regretted sleeping with?  Perhaps most of us have been there.  No need to fret.  Getting it on is part of the whole attraction ritual and it is part of our experience as humans.  Still feeling a bit of shame?  Here are ways you can move past the regret and more towards seeing the experience as a lesson learned and an opening for a more dynamic experience today.

Remember The Best Part of The Experience

Sometimes something that was not so bad is made out to be bad because we think more about the bad than the good.  Make sense?  Feelings of regret and shame are often exacerbated by negative thinking.  So think on the bright side?  What are a few things that you liked about the experience and what made you go there in the first place?

Agree To Disagree

If it truly was with someone you regretted being with, make sure that person knows that the experience was simply that; just an experience.  Do not let them think of the possibilities of another go.  Otherwise, you might find yourself regretting yet another minage a deux, or for the more experienced trois.  In any case, living a life of regret can be a heavy burden to carry.

Why and How

And before you beat yourself up, check your tactics.  How did you end up in bed with this person and why?  Every experience is a lesson learned and gets us closer to what we want and need.

How To Make it More Pleasurable Next Time

Last but definitely not least, ponder the ways to make your experiences more pleasurable on your next date with someone you won’t regret. And ahem, this time check out what Romantix has to offer to make the experience one to be remembered.  Because this time, “it’s going to be great tonight.”

Have you ever woken up beside someone you regretted sleeping with?; Ways to move Beyond Regret

Have you ever woken up beside someone you regretted sleeping with?

Have you ever woken up beside someone you regretted sleeping with?  Perhaps most of us have been there.  No need to fret.  Getting it on is part of the whole attraction ritual and it is part of our experience as humans.  Still feeling a bit of shame?  Here are ways you can move past the regret and more towards seeing the experience as a lesson learned and an opening for a more dynamic experience today.

Remember The Best Part of The Experience

Sometimes something that was not so bad is made out to be bad because we think more about the bad than the good.  Make sense?  Feelings of regret and shame are often exacerbated by negative thinking.  So think on the bright side?  What are a few things that you liked about the experience and what made you go there in the first place?

Agree To Disagree

If it truly was with someone you regretted being with, make sure that person knows that the experience was simply that; just an experience.  Do not let them think of the possibilities of another go.  Otherwise, you might find yourself regretting yet another minage a deux, or for the more experienced trois.  In any case, living a life of regret can be a heavy burden to carry.

Why and How

And before you beat yourself up, check your tactics.  How did you end up in bed with this person and why?  Every experience is a lesson learned and gets us closer to what we want and need.

How To Make it More Pleasurable Next Time

Last but definitely not least, ponder the ways to make your experiences more pleasurable on your next date with someone you won’t regret. And ahem, this time check out what Romantix has to offer to make the experience one to be remembered.  Because this time, “it’s going to be great tonight.”

Can you learn to be passionate about someone if there’s no chemistry at first? Sometimes!

Can you learn to be passionate about someone if there’s no chemistry at first?

So you’ve met a great guy or an awesome lady. You have common interests and friends. It’s all pleasant enough, but there’s just no excitement. Can you learn to be passionate about someone if there’s no chemistry at first?

There’s nothing like the feeling you get when you’re attracted to someone, and the feeling is mutual. You can’t wait to fall into bed together, but sometimes waiting makes it all the better once it finally happens. That’s what makes sexual chemistry amazing.

For some couples, sexual chemistry is immediately apparent. In fact, chemistry can make you overlook other ways in which you might not be so compatible. For others, sexual chemistry needs time to grow.

You might need to become comfortable spending time with your partner and making physical contact, so jumping into bed right away may not be wise. Give yourself time to get to know your partner, and the comfort might turn to chemistry.

It can be disappointing when the sexual chemistry isn’t readily apparent, but sometimes you need to foster it before you really feel it.

  • Make plenty of time for foreplay. You might not want to jump into your partner’s pants right away, and that’s okay. You may be able to uncover the feeling after making out, fingering or a sensual massage.
  • Talk about sex outside the bedroom, both in non-sexual contexts where you discuss boundaries and consent and in sexy ways. Sending sexy texts and pictures is a great way to increase sexual chemistry when you’re away from your partner.
  • Try new things together, both inside the bedroom and out. The increase in adrenaline is incredibly sexy. Plus, trying toys, new positions or BDSM can feel taboo or novel and make your sex life that much more exciting.
  • Other ways to build sexual chemistry include teasing, flirting, playing hard to get, paying compliments, subtle physical contact such as touching their arm, and smelling good.

In fact, you can make building sexual chemistry into a fun game rather than worrying about it.

When Chemistry Just Isn’t There

Sometimes sexual chemistry is a thing that you just have, or you don’t. You can’t force it. Trying to do so will only lead to resentment, especially if your partner does feel chemistry that’s just not there for you. It’ll come as a shock to them that you haven’t been completely honest.

However, you might find yourself revealing a lack of chemistry to someone who shares your feelings, and you might wind up with a good friend rather than a romantic or sexual partner. Even if you wind up breaking it off with someone who is otherwise a good man or woman, it’s better to be true to yourself in the long run.

It’s no one’s fault when sexual chemistry just isn’t there, but you can often help chemistry along in a way that both you and your partner will enjoy. So if there’s any chance, give it time and effort to develop.

When is the last time you had a dirty dream? And what do they mean?

When is the last time you had a dirty dream?

When is the last time you had a dirty dream? Perhaps you have them all the time, or you might rarely dream about sex. Like any dreams, dirty dreams might not make sense, and you might feel conflicted about the characters who show up in your sexy dreams.

If you want to know how to interpret your dirty dreams, read on.

What Does a Sex Dream Mean?

Some people say that dreaming about someone in a sexual way doesn’t necessarily mean that you want sex. For example, that person could be successful at work while you feel like you’re struggling. Or you might dream about a friend’s partner simply because you desire that loving connection. I know that I often have dreams where I’m in peril, and I try to seduce the person in control so that I can live unscathed. It’s no surprise what I want from them!

Of course, there are times when dreaming about sex is pretty obvious. Maybe you’ve been watching or reading something steamy (so adding more sexy media to your repertoire can help you have more sexy dreams if you’d like them). There might be someone new in your life, and you’ve been lusting over them.

Having hot sex might lead to some sexy dreams, but so can not getting enough. Your mind and body automatically turn to sex after you close your eyes. You might even orgasm during your sleep and, if you’re like me, you might wake up and hazily masturbate before drifting back to sleep.

Masturbating is a good way to ease the sexual tension you might experience, even if you have a partner. And if you do, he or she might enjoy hearing about their role in your sexy dreams (even if you have to switch it up because your brain was thinking about someone else.)

There’s nothing wrong if you dream about sex often or not at all. Plenty of people enjoy their sex dreams, but you shouldn’t worry if your sex dreams don’t make sense. They’re just like other dreams, after all.

Orgasm is hard! Can I train my body to climax faster?

Can I train my body to climax faster?

Many people find themselves frustrated by the elusive orgasm. It takes so much time to for some people to climax, and you might be left out in the cold while your partner is satisfied. It’s easy to wonder if something is wrong with you, to pull away from your partner or feel despair, but it’s not hopeless.

Asking “Can I train my body to climax faster?” is the first step to finding a solution to this crisis; although, it might not look the way you imagined.

Focus on Pleasure

Taking too long to orgasm can seem like a big deal if you focus on orgasm as the goal of sex or masturbation. But you can still enjoy these activities even if you don’t get off.

Furthermore, there’s no amount of time in which you should be able to climax. Setting that time limit can be fun if you think you can achieve it, but it might also be unrealistic and add stress to a situation for no good reason.

Add Foreplay

Our first tip to help you climax faster is for you incorporate foreplay. It might take you a long time to orgasm during sex because you’re not yet ready for it. Foreplay helps get you ready and can induce orgasm much more quickly once penetration happens — or even before it!

Activities such as dirty talk, oral or manual stimulation, wearing lingerie and more feel good to almost everyone. And these things may be necessary for you to be able to orgasm or to do so more quickly.

Some people skip foreplay because they define sex as when a penis is in a vagina. Update your definition to include all of the other things that many people consider optional, and you might have such a good time that orgasm comes more quickly (or you might not notice if it doesn’t).

Finally, avoid imitating penetration as the goal of masturbation. Romance yourself by adding more foreplay.

If you already have your head in the right place, we’ve got a few pointers to help you climax faster.

Use Tools

What do we mean by tools?

  • Dildos offer length and width that your fingers can’t compare with, and dual-density silicone even feels pretty realistic if that’s something you want. Plus, nubs, ridges and other textures
  • Vibrators aren’t like the real thing at all, and this can be a good thing! Many women — and some men — can orgasm more quickly thanks to a rumbly vibrator. And there are plenty to choose from: G-spot/P-spot, wands, clitoral and more!
  • Erotica gets your juices flowing before you even touch yourself; although, you might find it hard to resist after reading a sexy story (or even writing one yourself!). You can imagine yourself in the story, but if you need something a little more, you can try pornography.
  • Porn gets a bad rap, but many people enjoy it regardless of gender. It might take you time to find an actor, studio, genre or director that you really like. But once you do? You might find yourself getting off faster than ever thanks to the sounds and visuals.
  • In today’s world, sexting often replaces cyber or phone sex, but whether you send an amorous message, show off on camera or simply discuss your desires with someone through the screen, you’ll be ramping up the intensity of masturbation or sex to come later. Which means you’ll come sooner.

You’ll notice that our suggestions aren’t necessarily about training your body. In fact, most of them start with your mind. If you’re not mentally interested in sex, especially if you’re a woman, then orgasm will be more difficult if not impossible.

So slow things down. Give yourself enough time to get mentally excited, whether it’s adding more time to your sexual routine or adding foreplay throughout the day, week or even month prior to your sexual adventure.