So you want to try anal sex, but you are a bit hesitant? Here are 5 things that every newbie needs to know about anal sex before they embark on the back-door adventure.
1. It shouldn’t hurt. — Anal sex should not hurt. If you experience discomfort, the chances are good that you are not using a sufficient amount of lubrication. There are numerous types of silicone or water-based lubricants available that are long-lasting and geared specifically towards anal sex. Some lubricants also have a relaxing effect that helps loosen up the sphincter muscle.
2. Use a condom. — It’s true, you cannot get pregnant via anal sex. However, you can contract a wide array of sexually transmitted diseases indulging in anal intercourse. Every time you have anal sex, you should use a condom.
3. Start out slow. — Anal sex should never be rushed. It works best when both partners are relaxed. When you are nervous, your muscles naturally contract. A tight sphincter muscle makes penetration difficult and uncomfortable, so taking things slow will naturally relax the body’s muscles to create a more enjoyable experience.
4. Try an anal sex toy. — A sex toy is a great way to see what it feels like to have something in your anus before you opt to try full-blown anal intercourse. It’s also a good way to slowly relax your anus and prepare the region for penile penetration. Many anal sex toys and beads have a small tip and gradually get larger in girth to slowly loosen the anus. Some anal toys also vibrate to further stimulate all the region’s nerve-endings and create a pleasurable anal experience.
5. If you aren’t into it, don’t do it. — Remember, if you are not into anal sex, don’t do it. You should never feel pressured by a partner to indulge in a sex act that makes you feel uncomfortable. Sex is consensual and should always be enjoyed by everyone involved. Anal sex is not everyone’s cup of tea, so always discuss the topic with your partner before you give it a try for the first time.