10 Tips for Surviving Your First Sex Party

dfdsfGoing to a sex party is intimidating, especially if you’ve never been to one before. With some research, however, you will go in with way more confidence and be able to relax and have a ton of fun. Here are some tips and tricks to surviving your first sex party.

  1. Determine what kind of sex party it is. Believe it or not, there’s more to a sex party than meets the eye. For example, it could be a party for swingers, or it could be kinkier with ropes and chains everywhere. All it takes is a simple email or call to the host.
  2. Ask about the rules. Different venues have different rules when it comes to what’s allowed. Some don’t allow nudity or penetration, while others have no restrictions. Be sure to ask so you can follow the protocol.
  3. Set up your own ground rules. It’s tempting to walk in with an “anything goes” attitude, but it’s important to figure out what you are and are not willing to do. You’ll be approached at the party, and by knowing what you want, you’ll feel more comfortable during the conversation.
  4. Bring your own toys. If there’s anything you want to use during the party, including condoms and lube, you should bring it yourself. Don’t depend on anyone else to have what they need. It’s common to see people at sex parties with duffel bags with all of their goodies.
  5. Bring someone you know. It’s always better to go to a sex party with someone you’re already comfortable with. They can act as a buffer or introduce you around.
  6. Have a safe signal. If you feel uncomfortable at your first sex party, or it’s too overwhelming, plan ahead with a signal to leave. Something as subtle as a hand squeeze works perfectly.
  7. Negotiate. Before you agree to do anything with anyone, talk to them. It’s all too common for confusion to happen because people are on different pages in regards to expectations. Negotiating just ensures everyone has a great time.
  8. Don’t be afraid to say no. At no point are you under any obligation to do anything you don’t want to do. If you feel pressured, there are people around to help. Talk to the host or anyone running the party, and they should get the situation under control.
  9. Be open to meeting people. It’s important to remember a sex party is just like any other party. People, food, music. The only extra component is the sex. Talk to people like you normally would and let things happen organically.
  10. Bring a change of clothes. When attending a sex party, dress your best. A cute dress, a nice shirt, or even a corset. Remember, if you do have sex, you’ll want something comfy to wear after. By the end of the night, most of the party will be donning their comfortable clothes or even pajamas.

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