Some people are anxious about turning 30 and all it entails. Families, jobs, and aging bodies are just a few concerns. Have you ever thought about How your sex life changes in your 30s?
In your twenties, you’re more likely to be concerned about what other people think of you, your body and your sexual interests, especially when you’re newly sexual. But once you hit thirty, you might find that you’re more accepting of yourself, less caring about others’ opinions and stop chasing after people who are too self-involved to care about you.
This leads to a more relaxed paced for many people who begin to focus on quality over quantity. Once you’re in your thirties, your hormones are no longer surging like they were the previous decade, so you can explore at your own pace rather than following hormonal cues that may have led to situations that weren’t really up your alley.
For men, this means a drop in testosterone, which previously drove them to have as much sex as possible. This may mean you reevaluate your sex life and identity, or it may prove reassuring.
Women especially find themselves seeking sex in their thirties because they want it. They’re less inhibited by what society tells them is weird and more likely to ask for what they want or need, especially when it comes to orgasm and pleasure (no more faking it). It’s no surprise there’s a stereotype about cougars, the women in their 30s or 40s who enjoy sex with younger men. For the first time in their lives, these women may finally be having sex for themselves and no one else!
Being sexually bold often goes hand in hand with confidence, and what’s sexier than that? There are men who even prefer a woman in her 30s because she knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to ask for it, and we all know how important communication is to sex. There’s no reason to play coy when you’re stripping down.
For those of you in a committed relationship in your thirties, sex may have become routine. Everything from initiating to positions may be predictable. You might also have to make more time for sex because of life’s demands, something which some people struggle with.
Novelty and youth fade, and keeping interest might be a problem you’ve never faced before. Some couples find themselves drifting apart because of this, and your self-esteem can take a hit if you no longer feel desired.
Both of these things encourage people to explore more. Everything from sex toys to bondage to watching (or even making!) porn becomes something you can explore with your partner to break out of the routine and reconnect.
If you want it, sex in your thirties can be the best sex of your life (yet!).