3 things to do when your partner finishes too fast (so you can orgasm too!)

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Is your partner a premature ejaculator? We all know the feeling – you get super turned on from the foreplay, but then you’re left hanging as your man finishes way too fast. Well do not fret! The next time the steamy tantric sex you were expecting turns into a quick draw, try these 3 things to do when your partner finishes too fast (so you can orgasm too!).

  1. Play with a toy. If the sex itself wasn’t stimulating enough for you, have your partner either use a vibrator on you or watch you while you get yourself off with it. We suggest the Hitachi Magic Wand for maximum pleasure and control.
  2. Oral sex. Sure he’s tired but don’t let him off the hook that easy. Ask him to go down on you. And who knows – seeing you enjoying yourself might help him get in the mood for a second round!
  3. Try, try again. Men can often last longer the more times a day they ejaculate, so if he’s up for a second round you might be pleasantly surprised by his stamina.

If his short stamina is becoming a pattern, try either starting out slow or have him bring you to orgasm before he gets to cum. Some men wear cock rings to delay ejaculation; many even have added stimulation for you, so why not try it out? Our favorite is the Monarch Vibrating Cockring.

Questions, comments? Contact us for more information on what to do when a guy finishes too fast, as well as solutions for chronic premature ejaculators.

Is It Possible To Have Too Much Sex?

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Ecouple_iStock_000073450505_Doubleveryone knows when they aren’t getting enough sex. We recognize that our appetite isn’t satisfied in several ways. You daydream about it, even at inappropriate times. Perhaps you dream about it when you’re asleep. Your senses wake up at the nearness of someone you find attractive, and an accidental brush against their body feels electric. You feel distracted, and maybe ashamed, that you can’t get your mind out of the gutter. You might be embarrassed about how often you masturbate, but there is no other way to release the pressure of sexual frustration.

Many have never wondered what it looks like to have the opposite problem. Is it possible to have too much sex? And does being single or attached matter?

lesbians_iStock_000022673962SmallHow could a single person have too much sex? You’re likely thinking, is anyone that lucky? The truth is, if someone who is single has too much sex, it’s probably not due to luck. They’re working for it. If they’re getting-it-on almost every night, chances are, they spend quite a bit of precious time seeking out partners. If someone is spending half the day in search of a warm body, work performance is suffering, and they’re having a hard time staying awake during the day, then it’s possible they are having too much sex. In this case, things need put into perspective, and quality chosen over quantity.

It’s impossible for two people in a committed relationship to have too much sex, right? Doesn’t this just mean that they have a great relationship? Not always.
There are some signs to look for to know if you’re having too much sex.

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First, listen to your body. Are you exhausted during the day, from staying up at night to have sex? Are your parts sore? If the answer is yes, then you need a break. Let your body recover, and get a good nights sleep. Is your partner less enthusiastic about your advances than they were before? Do you ever get the feeling that you’re bothering them? If so, back off a bit, and talk to your partner. Are you being productive in other areas of your life? Or are you often late for work, household chores undone, still haven’t started that new project? A yes answer, if you still manage to have sex once or more every day, signals that you could be having too much sex. Perhaps you need to take a look at your priorities. Sex is important, but life is better well-rounded. Last, do you find yourself turning to sex daily, or even more, to avoid problems in your life or relationship?

 

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Some people will use sex as an escape, rather than confronting issues. You know if this describes you, and if it does, then you’re having too much sex. Resist the urge to use your partner as an escape, and start confronting your problems.

 

Sex is a big part of life and love. Just remember that it isn’t the only part. Enjoy sex to the fullest, but always be safe, healthy, and never abuse it.

Colors That Affect Our Sexual Desires

Throughout history, colors have symbolized things both consciously and subconsciously, including aspects of sexuality. If you asked people what colors might illicit sexual desires, most would probably reply red or black. However, there’s a variety of colors associated with affecting an individual’s sexual desires.

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Red, The Seducer

Studies show that the color red worn by men increase women’s attraction to them. This is backed up throughout history with red continually being associated with masculine power including kings, popes, and judges. Red’s sexual and erotic symbolism is seen in “red light districts,” red roses, the “Lady in Red,” or and even the “Scarlet Letter.” Lipstick demonstrates an excellent example of this. Socially we consider red shades sexy, but the reason is surprisingly scientific. When you become aroused your heart rate hastens and causes increased blood flow to your lips, which turns them slightly more red naturally. Does that make lipstick a psychological parlor trick?

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Much like red, black is associated with power and dominance, as well as aggression. Which makes sense that a lot of BDSM toys come in black. It is also commonly found as a favorite color in both male and female lingerie. It’s seen as a provocative color often perpetuated by references such the “little black dresses” and movies like “50 Shades of Grey.”

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Purple, The Imaginative

People with purple bedrooms are known to have more active sex lives. It is also believed to boost sexual imagination and sensuality, as well. Purple even increases sexual desire and creativity when worn as clothes or added as bedroom decor. Similar to the color red, purple is seen as attractive and compelling in clothing. It too has been traditionally worn by royalty, religious leaders, and people in power.

 

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These colors are typically associated with enticing feelings of love, passion, and sensuality. Accents of bronze or copper in your bedroom add beauty and increase the intimacy in your relationship. They increase sexual desires as fashion accessories for both genders as well.

 

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If you’re interested in increasing the playful nature of your sex life, add orange as your accent color! It is known to provoke playfulness, sensuality, and vibrancy in bed. Choosing to add this color to your bedroom or wardrobe brings a spark to your play time as a couple.

 

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Pink, The Nurturing

Pink has a unique effect on sexual desire. It draws nurturing, sweet, and tender feelings, as well as that of security. While having a pink bedroom or accents is uncommon for couples, this effect is utilized most often through an individual’s choice of attire. This is one of the reasons society has associated females with the color pink.

 

 

Also considered that each culture has unique attitudes, behaviors, and qualities attributed to each of these colors. Also, there are personal associations based on experiences that alter an individual’s opinion of “the most sexually attractive” or “the least sexually attractive.” Not mention a variety of other confounding variables as well. For more ways to improve your sex life, feel free to check out our blog or contact us today!

Getting Clean Before Getting Down: What You Should Consider…

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What does your sex prep look like? For some people, showering and shaving are a must each and every time. Others don’t even realize if they smell a little funky and some people are fortunate enough that body odor and confidence levels are never an issue. So do you stay clean before you get dirty?

Opinions on hygiene for sex vary. Some believe in high upkeep because they want to be viewed as clean and appealing. Others are more interested in getting laid than getting clean — and this is often true with guys who may not have been taught to be as self-conscious about their bodies as women have. If you’ve ever had a partner who judged you for not being clean enough (or hair-free, made up, etc.), you may very well be more concerned about your hygiene before sex.

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Even if you’re self-conscious, there’s no reason why you need to shower every time before sex. However, even if you don’t need to cleanse, you might feel more relaxed once you do. And being relaxed is crucial to comfort and letting go enough to experience pleasure and, for many women, to have an orgasm. So if you find it helpful to shower before sex, go ahead and do it.

That doesn’t mean that you should always schedule sex. In fact, removing spontaneity from sex can reduce some of the fun, too. If you’re unable to prepare for sex the way you prefer, one thing you can do is to invite your partner into the shower. You’ll strip down, suds up, become aroused and have no reservations when it comes to getting down.

However, you might find that a shower is overkill. For many people, all you need it a quick scrub (tits, pits, and bits are the three main areas). You might want to apply deodorant or fragrance, and some people even prefer to brush their teeth before sex. If you’re especially worried about how your genitals might smell or taste, then wet wipes can help. Just give yourself enough time to dry if your partner will be going down on you.

One time when we do recommend a little more prep is before anal activities. To avoid run-ins with fecal matter and boost confidence, use a wet wipe. You can also go one step further with a luke-warm anal douche over the toilet is enough. An enema isn’t necessary; although, some people enjoy them.

With that said, most people are more concerned about how they look and taste than their partners (and a partner who is concerned with those things may not deserve you, to begin with!). And sex that is spontaneous, leaving no room to shower or wash up, can still be sexy as hell because you’re taken over by lust and leave all your inhibitions behind.

There might be times when going the extra mile is appreciated. For example, you may want to clean, shave and dress up for an anniversary or Valentine’s Day. But these are special occasions, and you certainly don’t need to go that far all the time.

At the end of the day, you should do what you need to feel confident but not be so caught up in it that you forget how enjoyable sex can be.

Ready to sound off? Let us know what your sex hygiene policy is! Or contact us if you have any questions.

Rough Sex! What is it? Can you go too far?

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As society progresses, different types of sex, fetishes, and kinks are being accepted, but something that is still in the shadows is rough sex. Rough sex has always been around and has taken place between plenty of partners all around the world, but it is still considered taboo or wrong by many cultures. Most critics of rough sex haven’t done proper research or have heard horrific stories about rough sex going too far.

Rough sex is any sexual act that is vigorous or involves pain. Common activities within rough sex is slapping, spitting, choking, hair pulling, or even biting.

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Legs And Hose: Nuzzle Them, Rip Them, Love Them, Wrap Them Around Me

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It’s fall, which means that for most of the northern hemisphere, it’s the season for skin-tight leggings, lacy panty hose, and sexy stockings. Nylon enthusiasts create websites with daily updates featuring programs with women wearing pantyhose or spandex, YouTube tribute compilations, and someone even wrote a recent Entertainment Weekly post dedicated to the sexiest lingerie scenes.

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