Cunnilingus like a pro… from a women’s point of view

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A lot of cunnilingus guides focus on specific techniques, but being good at oral is about more than that. It’s about enthusiasm and being connected with your partner.

You’ve Got to Go Down

You can’t expect oral as a default if you’re not willing to return the favor, and there’s no reason some sessions can’t be all about my pleasure.

Not every woman likes when you go down on her, but I definitely do. And I make it a point not to sleep with people who won’t go down. Sorry, not sorry.

Now that’s out of the way, we can talk about how you can become a cunning linguist, as the kids like to say.

Consistency Is Key

It might seem like a good idea to keep things interesting by switching it up, but I don’t know many women who like that. Hell, I’m not even thrilled when my partner wants to switch sex positions every five minutes.

Instead, you’ve got to spend more time doing the same thing because that’s what it takes to get me off. And when I tell you that I’m about to come or you sense it from the way I press against the back of your head, now is not the time to stop.

Don’t get creative or try something new. Don’t increase the pace. Simply do the same thing until I get over that hump. Trust me, it’s what women want.

Expect to Spend Some Time Down There

Now, I actually experience orgasm pretty quickly compared to many women, but I have to let you in on a tip to help my fellow women. Oral can take a while, sometimes 40 minutes to an hour! Yes, this can become a bit boring or even strain your neck, but your partner will appreciate thirty minutes or more of undivided attention.

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You Can Give Yourself a Break

If it’s taking a while to get me off, you can take a break. Perhaps switch to fingering me or grab my favorite toy from the nightstand. You can just leave your tongue in place for a breather. It’s okay to rest your head on my thigh or a pillow to reduce neck strain, too.

I don’t want you to be uncomfortable, but that leads me to my next point.

It’s Not About You

Some people have this uncanny ability to make my pleasure about them, but it’s not about you or your ego. Be happy when you’re pleasuring me, but give me the space to move and make sounds in the way that comes naturally to me.

Communicate With Me

I’m pretty forward about what I like. I’ll tell you to move to the left or to slow down if I need it. But it never hurts for you to check in every once in a while. Sex shouldn’t be a game of 20 Questions, but you can ask if I like a specific technique. Just make sure to take my feedback into consideration and don’t become offended if I need a bit of an adjustment.

Psst, one thing us women like is hearing that we’re beautiful, yes, even our vulvas. We can be self-conscious about how things look, taste, or smell, so a little reassurance goes a long way!

Learn Your Partner

There’s no secret method to make every woman come with your mouth. You can certainly learn a few tricks and try them out on future partners, but we all like different things. If I give you feedback this time, I’ll appreciate when you remember it the next time.

One method you can use it to think of your partner’s vulva like a clock. You can do a few moves at the different times (1 – 12 or every quarter if that’s easier) and ask for feedback or pay attention to her response. I know that my clit tends to be a leftie (my left), so stimulation between the 3 and 6 is going to get me off the easiest.

Sorry About the Suffocation

Actually, I’m not. If I grab your head and grind against you during orgasm, you’re doing a great job, and I’m not really sorry. Consider it a job well done.

Ultimately, your goal is to provide me pleasure without pressure. If I can let go like that, it’s a win for both of us.

Now that you’ve got some oral sex skills in your pocket, it’s time to put them to the test. If you’re looking for more tips, check out other posts on the Romantix blog or contact us.

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