What does your sex prep look like? For some people, showering and shaving are a must each and every time. Others don’t even realize if they smell a little funky and some people are fortunate enough that body odor and confidence levels are never an issue. So do you stay clean before you get dirty?
Opinions on hygiene for sex vary. Some believe in high upkeep because they want to be viewed as clean and appealing. Others are more interested in getting laid than getting clean — and this is often true with guys who may not have been taught to be as self-conscious about their bodies as women have. If you’ve ever had a partner who judged you for not being clean enough (or hair-free, made up, etc.), you may very well be more concerned about your hygiene before sex.
Even if you’re self-conscious, there’s no reason why you need to shower every time before sex. However, even if you don’t need to cleanse, you might feel more relaxed once you do. And being relaxed is crucial to comfort and letting go enough to experience pleasure and, for many women, to have an orgasm. So if you find it helpful to shower before sex, go ahead and do it.
That doesn’t mean that you should always schedule sex. In fact, removing spontaneity from sex can reduce some of the fun, too. If you’re unable to prepare for sex the way you prefer, one thing you can do is to invite your partner into the shower. You’ll strip down, suds up, become aroused and have no reservations when it comes to getting down.
However, you might find that a shower is overkill. For many people, all you need it a quick scrub (tits, pits, and bits are the three main areas). You might want to apply deodorant or fragrance, and some people even prefer to brush their teeth before sex. If you’re especially worried about how your genitals might smell or taste, then wet wipes can help. Just give yourself enough time to dry if your partner will be going down on you.
One time when we do recommend a little more prep is before anal activities. To avoid run-ins with fecal matter and boost confidence, use a wet wipe. You can also go one step further with a luke-warm anal douche over the toilet is enough. An enema isn’t necessary; although, some people enjoy them.
With that said, most people are more concerned about how they look and taste than their partners (and a partner who is concerned with those things may not deserve you, to begin with!). And sex that is spontaneous, leaving no room to shower or wash up, can still be sexy as hell because you’re taken over by lust and leave all your inhibitions behind.
There might be times when going the extra mile is appreciated. For example, you may want to clean, shave and dress up for an anniversary or Valentine’s Day. But these are special occasions, and you certainly don’t need to go that far all the time.
At the end of the day, you should do what you need to feel confident but not be so caught up in it that you forget how enjoyable sex can be.
Ready to sound off? Let us know what your sex hygiene policy is! Or contact us if you have any questions.