There isn’t much that will light my fire faster than my partner talking dirty to me. Words you may never use in everyday life, suddenly become a powerful aphrodisiac. Listening to the one who satisfies you, explain not only what they want to do with you, but describe fantasies, in detail, melts me right into the palm of my lover’s hand. This is obvious! But, have you ever thought of deep or intellectual conversation as a turn on? Could it possibly have the same effect on your body?
Let’s think about that for a moment. Let it sink in. At first thought, it doesn’t seem possible. Why would a conversation, one appropriate to have with anyone, turn you on?
While I am all up for kinky discussions, I know that deep conversation is sexy, when it is with the right person. Picture yourself with your lover (or potential), sitting in a dark booth sipping wine, or laying on a blanket staring up at the stars. You discuss everything from your deepest secrets, to whether or not ghosts are real. There is something vulnerable about baring your soul to another person. It creates a connection that is on another level from dirty talk. When you feel this sort of closeness to your partner, there is no denying they become even more attractive to you.
So, before you know it, the intimacy that you have shared begins to stir up feelings inside of you. It may not have been as fast, but is every bit as strong. Meaningful conversation has the potential to lead to some of your most exciting sexual experiences. Think of it like slow cooking. Take the time to soak, and simmer for a while, before you begin to boil.
And who says that once your engine is revved, you can’t begin to talk sex? Explore and enjoy every aspect of conversation with your lover. The payoff will be worth it!