When we talk about orgasms, it’s usually from the female perspective. We want to know how to make her toes curl, or how to give her a second (or third, or fourth) orgasm. But what about the male orgasm? It’s often taken as a given; in the immortal words of Dante from the film Clerks, “Insert somewhere close, preferably moist. Thrust. Repeat.” In order to have a truly explosive climax, though, you’re going to have to put in a little more work than that. Here are our favorite tips for getting the most out of your orgasm.
- Practice good sexual safety. Before you attempt any of the things listed below, do some research on each. Learn how to do them safely, especially before you attempt to use a toy or insert any foreign object anywhere.
- Discover your other erogenous zones. It’s not all about the penis, gentlemen. Your balls, taint (or perineum), and prostate gland are all full of nerve endings, just like a woman’s clitoris. Start by stroking your testicles or applying pressure to your taint (or both, with a little help from a partner) just before orgasm. If you want to go the extra mile (and you’re adventurous), have your partner lube up a finger or toy and insert it about two inches into your butt. If you’re using a toy, make sure it’s designed for anal play and has a flared base. Unlike the vagina, things can get lost in there. There’s nothing like an emergency trip to the doctor to kill the mood.
- Delayed gratification will make your orgasm far stronger. This practice, also called “edging,” involves holding back your orgasm for as long as possible. Bring yourself right to the brink of orgasm, then slow down, bringing yourself back off the edge. Then start back up again. Repeat this a few times before you finally let yourself climax. It takes patience and willpower, but trust us, you won’t regret it.