It is better to take control…or give control in bed?

Control. What exactly does it mean to take control or give control? Communication in relationships, especially around control or being controlled is really important. If you’re in any sort of formal BDSM or kink relationship, you probably already know this. Not everyone has a twenty page written contract, but anyone will tell you, asking and getting consent is crucial.


Most people are not in contractual BDSM relationships, but just want to add a little zing to their mostly ‘vanilla’ lives–a little playfulness here and there.

Being in control doesn’t mean you get to do things to your partner that they wouldn’t want. It meansdeciding what happens next and how it happens.

Have a conversation about ‘who’s in charge’ sometime when you’re out of the bedroom. This puts you both in neutral physical territory, especially if you’ve got a pattern going where one person always initiates sex.

It’s likely that if you want to switch things up, your partner does too. It’s exhausting being the person who is always making the first move, setting the pace, or deciding on what (or who) is going to go down.

For someone who’s ‘been in control’, it’s exhilarating to have your partner take charge for a change. It’s downright freeing to go with the flow of whatever it is they’ve got planned. This doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be lying on your back waiting for action, but maybe taking vocal or physical direction.

If you’ve been the more passive partner, it’s exciting to think through a plan of action and carry it out with your partner’s compliance but at your own pace for a change. You might even be surprised at how your partner responds to your guidance.

Why I buy cheap lingerie…

Why Buy Cheap Lingerie?

What girl doesn’t like fine lingerie from Victoria Secrets, but lets face it — those lacy pieces cost big bucks. They are not the kind of items that you want your lover to rip off you in the heat of the moment. Every girl likes her lover to become so hot for her that he can’t hold himself back and he tears the panties right off your butt to quickly plunge in. If you want to just fuck and chuck your lingerie, then you might want to consider buying some sexy cheap lingerie to indulge your wildest carnal fantasies.

At Romantix, you can buy a super sexy black and red lace thong teddy for under $20. If your partner feels that skimpier is better than why not buy one of Romantix’s 2-piece set swimwear pieces? The chances are good that you won’t make it to the pool when your lover see’s you strutting your goodies in such a hot orange bikini showstopper.

Role playing is also a fun way to spice up your sex life, but the odds are good that you won’t want to play nurse every night of the week, so why purchase a costly nurse lingerie costume? At Romantix, you can make all your nurse caregiving fantasies come true for under $25 with their nurse feel good teddy and hat.

Being sexy is about more than spending money. It’s an attitude and it’s about just having funny. The inexpensive pieces of lingerie from Romantix help get your lover’s motor running and then they end up in a pile at the foot of the bed forgotten as your man focuses on your steaming hot body.

You can grab a box of one-size-fits-all super sexy lingerie from Romantix for under $20 to add some VA Voom to you sex life any time of the week. You don’t have to worry about fucking and then chucking the inexpensive lingerie. Just have some wild, uninhibited sex fun.